I became a mother for the first time and only time almost 17 years ago. I was an emergency c-section. I was too out of it to hold him right away. My husband did and I slept and felt guilt. I didn't know if I had a boy or girl at first. I did not hear the "it's a boy" A few days later when we took him home the nurse is talking to me and I'm thinking you really trust me with this baby!!
We go through so many hormonal, emotional and physical changes becoming a mother.
Wow, it sounds like you also had a rough entry into motherhood. It’s crazy how we feel guilty for things even out of our control. It’s this magical concept society has of mothers as all-knowing and capable of taking care of anything and everything, like a god almost (which is true to an extent 😉). But it puts ridiculous standards on us, so when we enter into that position for the first time facing that high task and then meeting harsh reality can really put us out of sorts! The only way to cope with it is to change. And even that change itself can be jarring. Thanks for taking the time to comment 😊
Becoming a mom was a gift and the best thing to ever happen to me. The first days of motherhood are difficult, especially as your body recovers and there sometimes doctors and society forget about the mothers recovery
Yeah absolutely! It wasn’t even something I considered for myself, but there needs to be more awareness around how precious and sensitive a time this is, and ways for women and families to be concretely supported.
Absolutely agree. Awareness starts with us. I wish I know now what I knew so many years ago when I became a first time mom. My physical therapist says in her country new mothers start physical therapy as part of there pregnancy recovery. I'm thinking pelvic floor too. There would be so many less problems down the road for women if this care was encouraging and available to us after childbirth. My core muscles have never been the same and this contributed to back problems. Distasis (sp) recti. Should be addressed in women after birth. I have it now 17 years later
I became a mother for the first time and only time almost 17 years ago. I was an emergency c-section. I was too out of it to hold him right away. My husband did and I slept and felt guilt. I didn't know if I had a boy or girl at first. I did not hear the "it's a boy" A few days later when we took him home the nurse is talking to me and I'm thinking you really trust me with this baby!!
We go through so many hormonal, emotional and physical changes becoming a mother.
Wow, it sounds like you also had a rough entry into motherhood. It’s crazy how we feel guilty for things even out of our control. It’s this magical concept society has of mothers as all-knowing and capable of taking care of anything and everything, like a god almost (which is true to an extent 😉). But it puts ridiculous standards on us, so when we enter into that position for the first time facing that high task and then meeting harsh reality can really put us out of sorts! The only way to cope with it is to change. And even that change itself can be jarring. Thanks for taking the time to comment 😊
Becoming a mom was a gift and the best thing to ever happen to me. The first days of motherhood are difficult, especially as your body recovers and there sometimes doctors and society forget about the mothers recovery
Yeah absolutely! It wasn’t even something I considered for myself, but there needs to be more awareness around how precious and sensitive a time this is, and ways for women and families to be concretely supported.
Absolutely agree. Awareness starts with us. I wish I know now what I knew so many years ago when I became a first time mom. My physical therapist says in her country new mothers start physical therapy as part of there pregnancy recovery. I'm thinking pelvic floor too. There would be so many less problems down the road for women if this care was encouraging and available to us after childbirth. My core muscles have never been the same and this contributed to back problems. Distasis (sp) recti. Should be addressed in women after birth. I have it now 17 years later
I’m sorry to hear that! And yes PT & pelvic floor health is just another one of the many areas that are neglected in postpartum for women sadly.